Personal growth is the result of re-evaluation. Our heavenly Father is definitely into reviewing things and making alterations based on circumstances. In the Old Testament, He declared the city of Nineveh null and void until he saw that they repented from the heart. He changed his mind about them. Originally, when it was time for Isreal to exit Egypt, God wanted to just use Moses, but because Moses was so insecure about his speaking abilities, he told Moses to take his brother Aaron with him. That was not the first plan. When you think about it, the fall of Adam was not the first plan either, but God made the glorious adjustment. Reexamination can lead to beautiful results.
Throughout scripture, we read that God never changes, and that knowledge is comforting in a constantly changing world. Yet, I think the caveat to that consistency is that he never changes his character or his principles of right and wrong. He does change however his position or assessments on things.
Every day as I peel away the layers of my past (you can read about my recent changes in Reasons I Moved on Part 1 & 2), I am re-examining how I live. You have to take recovery in small steps. Take the demons off your shoulder one by one. Tackle each negative influence in phases to wipe them from your mind.
Having gone through so many years of loving God and helping people, I realize those are the parts of my life I want to keep. I enjoy helping people and I love the Bible and I know I love Christ for changing my heart and saving me. Those things are solid to me. They are unchanging and part of who I am. Yet, there were other things in my life that needed adjustment for me to move forward.
Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise, Ephesians 5:15 NIV
When you discover a place, a relationship, or a situation that hinders the possibilities in your life, then it’s time to make some moves. Our lives are meant to be used wisely. Each person on this planet matters. This includes you. If you approach life believing that you matter, then you will seek ways to enhance the talents and skills you’ve been blessed with.
Knowledge and understanding are two valuable commodities. They are also fleeting. One can just as quickly miss windows of opportunity which can send them on a long detour, as they can grasp the momentum of clear direction and run with it.
It is fear that often holds us back from renewal. To sit down and say “where do I go from here” is a huge task. It’s emotionally wrenching to realize that growth is not happening or that you’re stuck in a particular job or dead-end situation or toxic relationship. It’s stressful. What do I do? If a make a move, how will I manage my new life? Things will be so unfamiliar. It’s so scary that many times, a person will say, “Forget it. I’m fine where I am” because the effort and time and struggle it would take to answer those questions is just too much.
However, from my experience, I can tell you. It’s worth the climb.
This is why I took a year off from ministry. I wanted to re-assess where I was going. Every situation in my life at the time was pointing to one thing: Change.
Pay attention to anger and frustration. These emotions could be pointing you to an open door, a better direction. Try not to get lost in the displeasure at what you’re seeing, as I did for so many years, wasting valuable time trying to fix my situation when what I really needed to do was get out.
If God is leading the charge in your transformation, then go for it. Forget about the folks that want you to stay where you are and keep doing whatever you’re doing. When you see that those activities are not serving your life’s purpose, start your personal revolution. It’s your life! Remember, people don’t like change anyway because we humans are creatures of habit. You’ll be just another change they have to deal with and it might irk them.
“It takes tremendous discipline, takes tremendous courage, to think for yourself, to examine yourself.” ~ Cornel West
Keep in mind that the climate you’re in affects your breathing. So, unstick yourself from people who are stuck. Don’t be angry at them for being stuck, just move on, and surround yourself with those who will help you build a new, solid foundation. Live your life and complete your divine mission.
The good Lord gave each one of us the ability to think things through. Use it. You have more resources than you realize and more courage than you know.
“Thorough examination will do the healthy no harm, and it may bless the sick.”
“It is not living that matters, but living rightly.” ~ Socrates