Are You Thinking Right?

ThinkstockPhotos-131580912Recently, I’ve been trying to eat healthier. I figure if I exchange bad habits for good ones, I’ll reach my “perfect” body weight. I’ve been listening to a lot of subliminal message audio books to help boost my thinking about healthy eating and exercise.  It’s not that I don’t have time to prep food and eat right (I decided I won’t use that excuse) but that I have to make time for what’s important. So, I decided to use these audio books to help boost my thinking.  Wow! The difference has been amazing.  God must know about this subliminal mind thing right?  The daily messages we receive in our subconscious affect our thinking.  I was never one to go for that sort of hoodoo stuff.  My husband would play all these “you can do it” tapes and never do it.  So I asked him, “why do you listen to that stuff, not that it’s not good and entertaining but is that really helping you?”  He said, “Actually, sweetheart it is. I know I’m not superman, but the things you have seen me accomplish is because I try hard to get all the negative messages out of my head”.  Now my husband has always seemed like such a positive person.  In fact, even though I know that everyone gets the “can’t do it” mantra in their brain from time to time,  my husband was the ” bounce back kid”.  He just never seemed to let problems get him down.

When you live with someone like that, you think, “either your born like that or you’re not”.  But I’ve discovered through this journey of trying to live a healthier life-style that how you think, and the messages you hear and internalize, have everything to do with your actions.  Since I’ve been on this journey,  I have gone out to eat twice (way down from the everyday thing). Each time, I can honestly tell you that the focus on the food was extremely different.  Even though I enjoyed the taste, I was not focused on my food at all.  Like many people, I connect food with relaxation, not as way to fuel my body.  If it didn’t taste absolutely great, I was like George Bush with broccoli. I felt I didn’t have to eat anything I didn’t feel like eating. When I focused on feeding my body for nourishment as well as enjoyment, my thinking changed.  I drank veggie juices because it was just good for me.  Even though I had done that before, I’d put agave and fruit in there, and plenty of it, because I had this horrible sweet tooth that had to be satisfied.

I said all that to quote this scripture Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he” (KJV).  The way a person thinks often determines their actions.  If I think I am not capable of running a business, pleasing my spouse or being a good parent, I will get this deep in my heart.  The scripture tells us “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23 (KJV).  I like this translation as well “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (NIV).  Everything you do.  If you get in your head that this trouble you’re going through right now will never end; that God is playing games with your life; that you cannot take one more bad thing happening to you or you’re going to snap, then you will feel extremely discouraged about your trials and tribulations. Have you ever just looked up at the sky, thrown your hands up and asked God, “Lord what is going on?!”  Why am I here at this place in my life?  I know God is faithful and will answer.   Bottom line–God cares about every aspect of our lives.  So you have to keep your mind straight to keep your heart straight. If you have to speak encouraging scriptures into your phone and play it back, do it!  Don’t be passive! Get the encouragement from God into your head.  We have so many distractions in our world today that we tend to underestimate the power of being alone with God, meditating on him and breathing Him in–and yes–into our subconscious; so that he’s always ruling our thoughts.  He has to be first in your thoughts for spiritual success.  If you haven’t been thinking right, do the work necessary to begin that process.  

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Are you struggling with faith because your problems feel like they will never end?  Are you having trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel?  Do you need help with spiritual growth? Walk on Water gets to the root of why so many miss the life lessons that God is trying to teach.  Through a personal journal, thoughts, encouragement,  and biblical teaching, I want to bring to light that our journey with Christ as we learn our own humanity can be a beautiful thing.

Coming to Realizations

I’m realizing more and more that our backgrounds don’t have to dictate our outcome. I preached a message recently that called for a lot of self-examination on my part called, “What is your Name?” The idea was that Jacob had inherited so many bad traits from his mother’s side of the family, that he seemed doomed to be a conniving thief most of his life. God in his mercy did not leave Jacob with bad character. God made Jacob face himself and his deficiencies, and Jacob was humble enough to do the work necessary to change his name from Jacob “supplanter” to Isreal.”God has prevailed”.

Man-Praying-600x399Bad things happen to good people.  If you have any experience in life, you know that you can try your hardest to do things right and still make a mess. It took me a long time to learn that even though honesty is the best policy, life will still throw you a mud pie or two. Right now I’m on vacation and my kids are in the next room playing video games.  Like most parents I’m wondering how long I should let them play while I enjoy the freedom of being alone.  That’s the pretend game most parents play.  “How are you all doing in there?!”, we dutifully yell out to them.   “Fine”, they holler back;  and as long as the house isn’t burning down, we have glorious, to die for, alone time.

I’ll tell you more about my journey, but for now, let’s just say that after being lied to and used for the first half of my life, I’m in a good place for self-awareness.  I know what it feels like to make big mistakes and I know what it feels like to recover. In this blog, I plan to offer words,and thoughts of encouragement for those going through troubling times in their life. Everyone needs encouragement.  Sometimes just bible quotes and short thoughts, and sometimes I’ll write on life lessons.

I got saved (Born Again) in 1982.  So its been 33 years.   It is, absolutely,  the best thing that’s ever happened to me.  The second best thing is my husband and third my children.  The order of the second and the third gets mixed up though, depending on what drama is going on that particular day; but I love my family, and I love my walk with Christ.

I started this blog, because I wrote a book, ” How to Walk on Water: A Christian’s Survival Guide for Going Through Trials.   A long title, but accurate, nevertheless.  I take a deep look at the areas Christians struggle to maintain while they’re going through difficult times.  Many of us Christians forget that when we give our heart and life to God, he doesn’t send trouble to hurt us.  God is trying to make us better, deeper,  and closer to Him.  After many years of counseling other Christians, I wanted to write a book where a person could pick any chapter and receive something to meditate on and receive encouragement.  For many years I labored under the fallacy that once a person gets saved, God’s power and love fixes everything.  But I’ve come to realize, that this simply puts you in the Colosseum to fight the beasts, it doesn’t make them disappear.  In the end though, I’d rather have problems with God on my side, than have those same problems, and nowhere to turn.

I’m realizing more and more that our backgrounds don’t have to dictate our outcome. I preached a message recently that called for a lot of self-examination on my part called, “What is your Name?”  The idea was that Jacob had inherited so many bad traits from his mother’s side of the family, that he seemed doomed to be a conniving thief most of his life. God in his mercy did not leave Jacob with bad character. God made Jacob face himself and his deficiencies, and Jacob was humble enough to do the work necessary to change his name from Jacob “supplanter” to Isreal.”God has prevailed”.   God changed Jacob’s heart and his thinking.  While meditating on this message, God revealed to me my own inherited traits, and what I needed to do.  I was letting parts of my background dictate my outcome. I was allowing my weaknesses and low self-worth to dictate my life, and what God means for me to become. Even though I survived spiritual abuse, I had internalized the subtle put-downs, the cold-shouldered neglect, and the jealousies.  My husband always quoted Les Brown to me and said, ” “Honey, don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality.” After years of him quoting this to me, I am finally getting his drift.  These are realizations I am holding near and dear to my heart at this point in my life and I’m finally getting the courage to ignore the noise and focus on God’s will, and it’s beautiful thing to be free.