Single and Stuck: Spiritual Authority and the Dating Game

As I’m working on additional interviews from adults who suffered under authoritarian spiritual leaders, I want to address singlehood under this type of leadership. For some time, I’ve wanted to write about the wrongs our young people face in the area of matrimony. images (7)

My oldest son, before he left for College, said, “Mom, I want to ask you something about your church?” Knowing my son, I knew it was not going to be an easy question. He’s one of those people that doesn’t say much but sees a lot. “Why are there so many single women unmarried? We’ve been there for nearly seven years at this church, and they are all still single? Are they not allowed to date anyone outside of the church?”

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Looking Deeper

I thanked God for finding my soul mate; something that would not have happened if we had listened to people. Sometimes looking deeper than the surface can bring out gold.

When I woke up Sunday morning, during my prayer time and  I began to thank God for my husband.  It had been a rough week emotionally.  Him, with his business and me fighting off some disappointments.  In both cases, we were focusing on the wrong thing and needed the other’s help to shift in the right direction.  As I sat there, I thanked God for putting us together and finding my soul mate; something that would not have happened if we had listened to people.

Sometimes looking deeper than the surface can bring out gold.

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The Advantage of the Long Road

Problems drag on and on in our lives, and it’s a challenge to keep your head up.As circumstances begin to play out in a comedy of errors, mishaps, and (sigh) waiting for the wind to blow the sails, the temptation to look at how long a situation is taking becomes overwhelming.

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Don’t be discouraged.  Problems can drag on and on in our lives, and I know, it’s a challenge to keep your head up.  How often do we sit through just an excruciatingly long speech, or movie and even though it may be good, it’s a natural inclination to say, “hey, how much longer is this speech going to be anyway?”  And whether this question is asked out of frustration or just pure curiosity, we feel justified in asking. We as humans live in the realm of time and we get mighty concerned about our time here, as we should.  As circumstances begin to play out in a comedy of errors, mishaps, and (sigh) waiting for the wind to blow the sails, the temptation to look at how long a situation is taking becomes overwhelming. Continue reading “The Advantage of the Long Road”