One of the first questions my therapist asked me was not about my religion but about me. She was getting me to focus on MYSELF. I had to stop talking about everything wrong in my life. I am usually very intense about everything, and when I would come, I would talk about all of the weird things that were going on at church and in my life. Then it finally hit me. I realize that the things that I was complaining about in life were the result of the things I allowed.
No matter how badly other people behave, you have to heal by looking at yourself and how YOU are handling their actions.